"The best time to give, share, enjoy, be happy, excited about and celebrate love is every day!!" --- Dimas Chiviri
"If every lover was treated like they matter every day then Valentine’s Day would not be so special" --- Mokokoma Mokhonoana
"The one thing we can never get enough of is love. And the one thing we never give enough is love" --- Henry Miller
It is no secret that dating can be a tedious and stressful experience for all those involved. In this issue we will delve into the world of dating and give you guidelines on various aspects of a date, hopefully easing your struggles.
She has accepted your request to go on a date with you. After the initial excitement nerves settle in and questions flood your mind.
Where do I start? Where should I take her? Should I make a reservation? Should I choose a place I have been to before? Or maybe the places I frequent are not appropriate for this date. Should I ask my friend to recommend a place? But that will mean I have that conversation about her. I’m I ready for that yet?
Firstly, calm down take a deep breath and let us walk you through the land mine in your head.
1. DO YOUR HOMEWORK
Find out her likes and dislikes. Great thing about Social Media in this day and age is that this will not be a hard task. You can judge by the places she frequents and her captions of pictures what she would like to eat and where she would like to go. The last thing you want to do is take her to a restaurant that serves a cuisine she hates.
2. NARROW IT DOWN
Once you have done your homework it will be easy to settle on a few places. Research on your options; if possible visit the venues beforehand so you can gauge the food, service and ambiance of the place. An easier way to do this is to read as many reviews as possible. One platform for restaurant review is https://audaciousenses.wordpress.com/
3. SIGN ON THE DOTTED LINE
I don't mean this literally. Make the commitment to the venue by calling and making the reservation. Be sure to specify that it is an intimate date that way the establishment can ensure your set up is conducive. You can also make arrangements for anything special you would like such as flowers, a special song etc.
You can also think outside the box. A date does not have to be in a restaurant, it can be to the movies, bowling alley, interesting event such as ‘Concours d’Elegance’, Music Festivals and cocktail parties.
ALWAYS dress up for a date. This shows that you respect your date and the occasion. This however depends on where you are going. We don’t want you showing up at the movies in a tuxedo or evening gown. This brings us to; always let your date know of the venue and activities you have lined up so they can dress adequately.
For a casual outdoors date. Kindly note that not every guy can pull off shorts switch up with khaki or linen pants if you are in that category.
For a more semi-formal date. If suspenders are not your thing, switch it up with a blazer. Add a tie or bow tie for a super formal date.
For a casual outdoors date you can never go wrong with a maxi dress. The flow of the dress makes you look sophisticated and very lady like. And the comfort it brings is an added plus! Add an elegant blazer for a semi-formal look.
*For formal wear refer to the style section below.
On a first date, carrying a small gift for your date will give you an edge above the rest. Plus over the top is always better than average especially if you want to make a lasting impression. Make it something simple like a bouquet of flowers, a small box of customised chocolates or a nice accessory such as a beautiful scarf nicely packed or a brooch.
If you have been together awhile then choose your gift from what you know of your lady’s/gentleman’s tastes. You may opt to go with a sentimental gift like a painting or drawing of a beautiful memory the two of you shared.
Gift you can never go wrong with:
Accessories for both genders i.e. necklaces for a lady and cufflinks for a gentleman.
When in doubt, pick an interesting book!
To have a flowing conversation on a first date is no easy task especially if you are an introvert or generally a shy person. The key is to listen to your date more than you talk. Do not be over eager to have a deep and meaningful conversation, should the relationship go deeper there will be plenty of time for that. For now take it easy.
Some Conversational Questions
- Favourite movie of all time and why?
- What is your favourite way to spend your weekend?
- Do you have any pet peeves?
- What is your current fondest memory?
- What do you do for a living?
- Do you love to travel?
TIP: Answering these questions could be much more fun and interesting if given in form of a story.
Anita Mogere Fashion Blogger of: ‘From Curves With Love’ on Facebook and website: http://fromcurveswithlove.wordpress.com/
One of the most beautiful and elegant fabrics on a lady is lace. Be it fully lace or partial lace on a dress it looks fabulous!
Anita shows in the picture alongside that there is really nothing else that screams delicate and girly in one outfit than a lace dress and pearl accessories.
Throw on a pair of killer black heels, black clutch and a bold red lipstick and this outfit is perfect for a romantic dinner date with that special someone.
On a chilly evening add on a nice fuzzy snow white shawl or long black trench coat keeping your look flawless whilst remaining nice and warm.
Mrs. Angela Mogere and Mr. Derek Bbanga at a recent Suzie Beauty Training